Three days ago, on a business holiday, I spent the day signing up for half a dozen adult lifestyle accounts. It required age verification processes that were quite onerous and the sites are complicated to figure out. But, I was driven to complete the process, and I did! Then what?
Why develop a lifestyle brand?
In most goal-setting endeavors, I’ve learned it is helpful to identify the “why,” as in “why am I doing this?” Knowing your specific why is a tool to increase discipline when your motivation is low.
When I consider why I am finally moving forward on creating passive income streams, the easy first answer is money. Times have been tough lately as anyone will tell you, and even though my indentured servitude pays well, it can be hard making ends meet. Money can’t be my why, though, because money doesn’t keep me moving when motivation lags. I don’t live for money.
The next easy one for me is attention and self-satisfaction. There’s plenty of Cardinal signs in my chart, I’m the first-born daughter of two first-born parents. At the end of the day, though, I have a fierce streak of independence, almost sometimes to the point of isolationism. I don’t need anyone’s attention, so that can’t be my why.
Finally, as I was laying in bed last night after setting up my first week of scheduled content on Fansly, my why came to me… you might want to sit down, because I have big dreams. I am developing my persona as a dominatrix and lifestyle consultant so that I can exercise full autonomy in this capitalist patriarchal landscape we live in.
How long will it take to develop a lifestyle brand?
I don’t know. It has not been an impulsive move for me, and has taken over a year to get to this point. Most of my work so far has been supported by lifestyle mentors. I’ve studied sexual communication, erotic massage, boundaries, and dominatrix styles with Sex Coach Shannon, a local sex educator whose work focuses on Blissful Sex for Women+. I highly recommend her services to anyone who is looking for a place to get started on their sexual liberation journey.
I’ve also been observing other content producers in the lifestyle arena. One of my favorite inspirations, Synamin Vixen, a sensual spell caster extraordinaire. Syn is a multitalented artist and a vessel for Spirit. They have helped me with getting in touch with my body through meditation. Alongside their partner Dominus, they’ve supported me in learning rope skills and impact, but one of my favorite experiences so far has been Synsual Movement class. More to come on that.
I’m not flying blind out here, and for that I am thankful. I’ve been able to pick the brain of local dungeon daddies and pro dommes to figure out where there’s a niche for me, with the time, energy, and effort I’ve got. I’ve had access to quality supplies through Happy Kitten Rope and I’ve been eyeing one of their new handmade wooden paddles. I think when it is time, I will allow a patron to gift me one of these beautiful products in appreciation for my attentions.
When will I earn my first dollar?
Probably today. Like I said, I will not build this overnight success overnight, but I have been working on this a long time. I started posting teaser content on my personal social media accounts some time ago. I have been collecting data on followers who might be patrons. I’ve got my first follower and they’re ready to subscribe.
Eventually, I will offer a full suite of lifestyle concierge services for travelers to and locals in and nearby the New Orleans area. I have feelers out in other major party cities as well and am building a network of women who can offer these services in their own time.
Meantime, though, I have to get back to the vanilla grind. Until next time.
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